Well, I have two people officially following this blog, and hopefully a couple of unregistered folks ,so this is to let you know that I haven't abandoned this blog. Quite the opposite. My wife is about to be home after a year of separation, and we have some fun in store(not the least of, my wife will be hosting a 'BBC party' on the 10th). As soon as life settles in, I will be updating this with some juicy details(and pics).

Swinger websites

Swinger websites have been good to us(we use AFF), but be warned, there are a LOT of fakes and flakes on them. I'm not sure what motivates people to get on there, and go so far as to set up a meeting and then be a no show.

I'm bitching about this because I somehow ended up being tasked with planning a party. Here's what happened; my wife and her (girl)friend read a story in Penthouse Letters(yes, my wife really reads those, her friend has the entire series), and they came across a story about a 'BBC party' that her friend really liked. My wife, who has a soft spot for black guys, happened to have an invitation to such a party already. Her friend insisted on going as well(not a problem, she's also mid 20's, great shape, hot). Well it turns out that the guy misrepresented what kind of party it was, it was just a regular swinger party, so they backed out of it. Now they both have it in their heads, and they are really wanting this party, so guess who is planning it,lol.

I've managed to find two other girls through AFF who have confirmed. The problem is the guys. The girls want a 3-4 guy to girl ratio(yes, they know they are freaks), so I need to find 12-16 guys who fit what they want. That's hard enough. But I know from past parties we've had, that you need to have double the amount of people confirm, because at least half will no show. It's a logistics nightmare with this many people,lol.

On the bright side, I get to be the camera man and I've been promised a pre party threesome with my wife and her friend. SO, I'm not that upset about it. I just wish there weren't so many fakes on the internet.

Random photo of my wife 3

Random photo of my wife 2

Random photo of my wife 1

History

Early on, when my wife and I were still dating, I asked her what was the best sex she ever had. I wasn't prepared for the answer. But it eventually changed my life. I got angry at first, and she clammed up. I didn't even get the basic outline until six months later. I was in the military and we were separated, so we had been having a lot of phone sex. For some reason, the thought of my sweet little wife taking on two guys had begun dominating my fantasies, and after much begging and promising not to get upset I started to get the story out of her:

One day, she skipped school with a couple guys to go park some where and smoke pot(hey, it was high school). The guy driving was her regular 'on call fuck buddy', and sported a very big dick(didn't find out that little detail until years later). I'll call him Mike. She was in the 'shotgun' seat, with the other guy in the back.

After a while Mike asked her to suck his cock, which she promptly dropped her head and began doing. Noticing 'John' in the backseat staring, she invited him to open her door, and fuck her from behind as she sucked Mike off. They fucked like that for a little while, before moving out of the car, where they took turns in her pussy and mouth, leading to several orgasms for her before one came over her face and tits, and the other shot his load on her back.

I learned years later(with her now totally comfortable with her sexuality), that she had actually planned it ahead of time, and fully expected to fuck them at the same time when she left her house that morning. Not only that, but that she began fucking them BOTH regularly, along with various boyfriends and hook ups.

I know these days, that she had a hell of a slutty reputation at school, and happily earned it(other favorite stories from that era-the time she let the night crew do her after closing when she worked at Wendy's, the time her mom thought she was stoned, but she really had cum in her eyes). I didn't have this much fun in high school!

So anyways, a few months of jerking off in the latrine thinking about that, and the seed was planted and sprouted. I still hadn't realized that what I wanted was to see her reach those heights of pleasure with other men. I just knew I wanted some freaky times of my own. And MAYBE try a MFM.

We discussed it, and both wanted to try swinging with another couple. My wife actually arranged the first one with her best friend and her husband. It was OK. And the first time I saw my pretty wife take another mans cock into her mouth, I knew I was hooked for life,lol. The problem was, it was obvious both of us guys were WAY more interested in trying to get the other to fuck our own wives, but neither one of us seemed to want to fuck the others wife.

That began to be pretty common, almost the rule, as we met with more and more couples. It seemed most of us secretly just wanted to see someone fuck our wife. It became tedious, and wasn't fair to my wife or the wives we met.

I discussed this with my wife, and suggested trying a single guy. She didn't go for it right away, saying how it wasn't fair to me. And still being somewhat ashamed of my urges, I didn't push it much.

One night we had a couple we were friends with over for drinks(nothing naughty planned, they weren't swingers), and the booze got to flowing pretty good. The female half of the couple had a little to much to drink, and excused herself to pass out(they only lived in the apartment below us). Her husband stayed, and was playing music on my computer. My wife, now very tipsy began to dance, and soon was giving me a strip show, right down to her bare pussy and tits. My friend, through force of will was doing an amazing job of staring at the computer, like nothing was going on. Even when she dropped to her knees and began blowing me....

Dammit, I'll have to finish this later. Life calls.

about the 'cuckold' thing

As I mentioned earlier, I don't consider myself a cuckold. Or I guess I should say that I'm aware I'm a cuckold, but avoid the term. This isn't from any shame, I've just found that some of the guys got the wrong idea when we had that on a swinger site profile. This lifestyle has a million different kinks, and every couple is unique in what gets them off. And as long as it's between consenting adults, I'm not knocking any of them. But for what ever reason, when you say cuckold a lot of people assume you are bisexual, and want to be humiliated.

We learned this the hard way after a couple unpleasant hook ups, where the guys attempted to be insulting to me as they fucked my wife. Both seemed confused because we had listed our self as a cuckold couple, and thought that meant we wanted a "bull" and all that stuff.

Don't get me wrong, I can get into a little light humiliation, but only at the hands of my wife("Oh honey, his cock is so big, it feels so good", not "Sit in the corner and jerk your little dick loser"lol). The distinction is subtle, but important to my self esteem, I guess. I don't perform 'clean up' or 'get him ready' either. Not to knock the ones that ARE into that stuff. Lord knows, I'm not in a position to pass judgement on someones sex life.

So that's why. I think it's helpful to the guys too. They don't show up with a game plan for failure.

Introduction

I'm new to the world of blogging, so I'll just jump right in.

My name is Les. I am a 30 year old man, married to the girl of my dreams, who is a hotwife. If you are not familiar with the term, a 'hotwife' is a married woman who is free to have sex outside of her marriage, with her husbands approval and/or encouragement.

I consider myself a 'hotwife lover' rather than a 'cuckold'. I'm not normally hung up on labels, but 'cuckold' seems to give people the wrong idea on what we're into. I'll go more into that later.

Heidi is a beautiful(you'll have to trust me on this, I won't be posting any face pics), mid twenties mother of two. She has a successful career that demands discretion, but has a very active 'secret life' after work. She likes to say that she is 'a lady in public, and a freak in the sheets'.

We ended up in this the same way many do. Started out 'normal swinging'(with couples) in 2005, and quickly learned that she was mostly just interested in screwing the other men, and I was completely interested in watching her. We eventually stopped actively seeking couples(although we have a strange knack for ending up in our 'vanilla' friends beds'), since it was a lot more work to get what we really wanted. Now in mid 2009, she plays alone and with me on a very regular basis(a few times a week with other men). Our love, bond, and marriage have never been stronger, and seems to grow more every day.

I plan on filling in the gaps in detail on how we got from there to here, but that will take several posts.

Anyways, this is my blog. Thanks for letting me share with you.